So many of us try and make sense of situations by making excuses for people’s behavior (especially ones we are interested in) rather than looking at the big picture and realizing that something is off.
Why do we make excuses for peoples behavior?
Is it because we like them and want to believe and hope they are a good person? Is it because we’re insecure? Is it because we’re desperate to get into a relationship or keep a relationship? Is it because we’re nervous to voice our opinion? Is because we’re scared to accept the truth?
Whatever it may be, we need to stop making excuses for peoples behavior.
If someone is acting like an asshole 24/7 and giving you one word answers because they are “having a bad day”, chances are they don’t like you, they aren’t just having a bad day.
If you’re dating someone and you comment a heart on their IG pic, and they get mad, chances are they don’t want people to know about you. They aren’t trying to keep their “personal” life private. INSTAGRAM IS PERSONAL. Instagram is there for people to see your PERSONAL life.
If the person you are interested in is still sleeping/talking with their ex, chances are they aren’t over them. Ex’s have sex/talk for a reason…and it isn’t to get it in or just have a friendly conversation about the weather.
If your s/o never wants to sleep with you, chances are they have already checked out of the relationship. There is no way that your s/o is “tired” or feeling “sick” every time you want to have sex.
If the person you’re interested in only wants to see you late at night, chances are they only want to fuck you. They aren’t doing it because they want to see you because they like you. If they liked you, they would see you at normal hours.
If the person you’re interested in never makes time for you, chances are they really aren’t that interested in you. They aren’t that busy…If someone likes you, you will know, and they will make an effort.
If your s/o keeps doing something that you mentioned bothered you, chances are they just don’t care… They aren’t that stupid to not catch on that you mentioned whats bothering you 1000 times.
STOP making excuses for this fucking awful behavior.
Making excuses for people’s behavior is just going to make you miserable in the long run. Try and think about it logically, rather than emotionally… if you genuinely liked someone, would you do any of the ^ above? Probably not… but I am sure we have all done some of the above, and what was the reason behind it?
BECAUSE YOU DIDN’T LIKE THEM!
It’s hard to tell someone you don’t like them anymore, and it’s much easier to just brush someone off and drop subtle hints that you aren’t interested in them but it’s much more mature and kind to just tell the person, rather than act like an asshole or make up ridiculous excuses for your behavior and confuse the person.
Every time you get in a situation where you like someone and something feels off, chances are you are right. Don’t let their excuses eclipse the truth. Believe in yourself, and believe in your gut feeling.