fa·mil·iar·i·ty over the un·known

fa·mil·iar·i·ty
fəˌmilyˈerədē/
noun

the quality of being well known; recognizability based on long or close association.

I feel like most people have that one person, that one person that they can’t let go of.

For whatever reason, when the going gets tough, or when you’re unsure of something, you always find yourself drawn to them.

Is it your past history? Is it because you still love them? Is it because they still love you? Is it because you miss your times together? Is it because you constantly compare them to everyone? Is it because you’re scared of the unknown so you keep running back to something familiar, and running away from something new?

Deep down you probably know keeping this person around isn’t going to do anything beneficial to your life. All you’re going to do is cause issues to your present life, because you can’t seem to get out of your past.

Instead of growing, and seeing what else is out there, you constantly run back to the familiar, rather than embracing the unknown.

I am 100% guilty of this. Even if I was in a relationship, or not in one, whenever something bad happened in my life, I would talk to this person for familiarity, to try and help me feel better about whatever was going on in my life.

It never helped.

At first it was great… probably because I just wanted something, something familiar. Something to fill the pain. But then the pain wore off, I questioned my actions and disappeared.

This cycle happened on and off for a very long time, until I accepted that my actions weren’t positive for me, or that person.

It’s not healthy to run away from new relationships to an old one that has already been and gone.

Letting go of someone you may have previously loved, is going to be hard, no doubt… but how are you ever supposed to move on and be happy with another person if you keep living in the past?

“Who cares about your first love.
Give a big round of applause for your second love,
because they taught you love still exists
after you thought it never could again.”

Let go, and love again.

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