What is with society today regarding relationships and commitment?
I have noticed a trend recently…
So many people say they cannot commit to someone, but they can do everything else that is “relationship like”. They will spend time with someone, go on adventures, sleep with them, hold hands, kiss etc, but they won’t be “together”. They wont have that title.
I understand everyone has their own way of life, and I completely respect that, but when it comes to one person making up these ridiculous excuses saying they “like” the person, and “care” for them, but they can’t commit, because they are scared, or nervous, or some other ridiculous reason really frustrates me. If you have so called “commitment issues” then don’t even get involved with anyone. Why hurt another person in the process because you have issues?
You can’t have your cake and eat it too.
If you’re able to do all of these “relationship like” things, but you can’t say you’re boyfriend/girlfriend then what the fuck are you doing?
If you’re that dark and twisty then maybe you should’t be involved with anyone until you’re sure of yourself. Why bring someone else down in the process?
If any of the phrases listed below remind you of the one you’re “seeing”, you may want to reevaluate your “relationship”.
- They say they don’t want a relationship because they are scared to hurt you
- They have sex with other people
- They hit on other people in front of you
- They treat your friends like crap
- You’re the only one initiating plans
- When you’re together, it’s like they can take it or leave it
- After you have sex, they leave
- They aren’t affectionate – holding hands, kissing, etc.
- They come up with ridiculous reasons as to why you aren’t together yet
- They say they need “time” to figure things out, but still want to see you
If you can agree with 1 to 3 of these phrases maybe the person you are seeing is just a little bit of a jerk – you may be able to work with it and talk to them about their behaviour if you think it’s worth it.
If you agree with 4 to 6 of these phrases, I think it’s best that you reevaluate what you’re doing.
If you agree with 7+ of these phrases, I would advise you to run for the fucking hills. You may like them, and think you can help, but you can’t.
Remember your self worth. Remember that if someone really wanted to be with you, they would be. You shouldn’t have to ask them all the time how they feel, or what is going on between the both of you. The right person will make it blatantly obvious that they want you, regardless if they are scared or nervous. Giving someone your heart is scary, and anyone would be nervous doing so.
“He said he was scared of commitment, but he had tattoos all over his skin. I guess he didn’t see me as a work of art, or maybe he didn’t think the pain was worth it”.