“Hey, you’re really cute, want to hang out some time?”
“No, sorry… I’m not interested”
“Well you’re a fucking ugly slutty bitch, you stupid twat”
… If you’re a tad confused on what just happened, so am I.
I’ve been there so many times, when a guy has showed interest in me, but I didn’t show it back, and I politely let them know that I’m not interested, or things aren’t working out. I expect them to understand where I am coming from and we both go on our separate ways, but it’s never quite that simple…
I understand, rejection fucking hurts. I’ve been there on the receiving end where I have had an interest in a guy and they didn’t feel the same way. It hurt, it sucked and I was upset but I never once messaged them and talked shit to them because I was rejected. I would talk shit to my friends while eating ice cream and drinking wine, because well… That’s what I do when I feel rejected.
I’ll admit, there have been a few times where I may have not been as nice as I could have with rejection, but in my defence I was nice the first time, but they didn’t understand and kept trying and trying. Here is an example of one of those times. I blur out the names to keep everything confidential ☺️
I just find it so humorous that this person wanted to see me, and when I said in your dreams I was then a “fucking twat, and a bitch, and don’t forget a looney”. I guess my dad was right… He’s been calling me a looney since I was a child.
Why can’t people just be honest and say “that sucks because I liked you, but thank you for your honesty”.
I went on a date with a guy once. I thought it went great, so after the date I texted him and let him know that I had a great time and we should do it again. He said no. (Not exactly in those words but you understand the point). I said “that sucks you feel that way but thank you for your honesty”. My initial reaction wasn’t to call him an asshole or ugly, but I guess everyone is different?
I’ve been in a long term relationship before, and when my boyfriend broke up with me I got really upset and a few hurtful sentences came out of my mouth that I regretted instantly… I’m not saying what I said is justified because we dated and had history, but I could understand those feelings of anger because what I had was an actual relationship.
Most of the situations where I get called an ugly bitch is by a guy I barely know, not by a guy I dated. The person above, who called me a few colourful names knew me for maybe 2 months, and we hung out maybe 6 times? I also let them know two other times that I was no longer interested, and I was nice when I came about it.
Where do people get the idea that it’s okay to call someone an ugly slutty bitch when they are just being honest and letting you know they are not interested? Would these people rather have the other person lie and date them when they actually don’t like them? Probably not… I think lying to someone and pretending you like them is much worse!
So for everyone who has been rejected, rather than being the person who decides to bring the other person down just because they were honest, look at the big picture and realize that by calling the person something rude, you now look like an idiot… and for the people doing the rejecting, remember rejection hurts… Try and let them down easy the first time, but if they keep trying because they obviously don’t understand what “I’m not interested” means, maybe then you can come up with funnier responses.