Relationships end, it happens. When you get into a relationship there are two ways it can go. Either you stay together forever, or you end up breaking up.
Staying together is obviously the option that people strive toward while being in a relationship, but unfortunately that doesn’t always happen and eventually the relationship fizzles out and the two people go their separate ways.
Breaking up sucks, theres no two ways about it. You feel like your heart has been ripped out of your chest, and everything about the relationship you once had with that person consumes you. All the negative stuff that you constantly thought about while your relationship was slowly falling apart now doesn’t seem like such a big deal and the only thing you can think about is how good it used to be, and how maybe you could have done something to salvage the relationship… but you cant.
In most situations where a break up occurs, both parties aren’t usually on the same page. One person usually wants to work things out, where the other person either A) doesn’t see the point because they are so frustrated or B) they found someone else and in some cases couldn’t even tell you…
Both scenarios would drive anyone insane because well, why wouldn’t it? You’re pretty much asking a person who you love to try and work things out with you, when they are declining. Now I personally would prefer scenario A because it most likely means they are a decent human being, they just can’t keep fighting and they know it’s not meant to be. It still sucks to find out a person you love doesn’t see a future with you, but scenario B though on the other hand is really shitty. No one wants to be in that situation, but unfortunately it happens. I get it, not all relationships workout, but to date a person for X amount of time, and then to meet someone new so quickly after, in my opinion is very fucked up. How can you go from saying “I love you” to one person, to then saying “I like you” to another?
I’ll admit, I have been that person who goes from guy to guy, without taking any time to breath or process what just happened, but that was when I was younger. That was when my feelings weren’t sincere, and when I didn’t actually care about the person. You would think with age, the people you date would be more mature, but in my experience it’s actually quite the opposite. For me, after a breakup, it is very difficult to just move on, and start seeing someone else, but I guess not everyone is the same, and people still do that? I have trouble talking to the opposite sex, let alone pursue something with someone else…
But regardless of how hurt you are if you have once dated someone who you thought you were going to spend the rest of your life with, and after your awful breakup you find out within three weeks of it ending they are already involved with someone else, try and remember they are the asshole, not you. Do not blame yourself for their immature behaviour. Do not shed tears over that person because they are not worth it. Do not think you could have fixed it, because you couldn’t. They have probably pulled this shit on every person they have ever been with previously. You will find someone who wouldn’t be able to say “I love you” everyday to saying “I like you” to someone else a few weeks later. They will most likely pull the same shit on the new girl, that they did to you, so thank your lucky stars you got out now, before you were in too deep.
Yes, it really fucking sucks because you got blindsided and thought you knew someone, thought you mean’t the world to someone, when in fact you were just another person to pass the time with. Like Greys Anatomy says:
You didn’t love her. You just didn’t want to be alone, or maybe, maybe she was just good for your ego. Or, maybe she made you feel better about your miserable life, but you didn’t love her, because you don’t destroy people you love.
So learn from your breakups, remember that you tried, and know that you are dealing with heartbreak in a healthy way, rather than moving on to some other person.
You will find someone who loves you for you, and everything about you, and wouldn’t be able to let you go, and even if they had to let you go because they knew it just wouldn’t work, they would have the decency to not see someone romantically so soon on, because that is just fucked up. Your heart needs time to heal, unless they didn’t have a heart haha.