During your life time, you’re going to come across many different people. Some you may become friends with and stay friends forever, some you may just have as an acquaintance, & some you may be friends with but as you start to grow up & mature, they unfortunately didn’t take the same path, & when you do see them, it just isn’t the same as it used to be. Here’s a list of people you don’t need in your life when you’re trying to grow up & make something of yourself.
The people who act their shoe size: You have that friend that no matter what happens to them they act like a child that’s between the ages of 6 and 12. At first it’s tolerable but after a while you get to the point where you feel like you’re hanging out with your niece or nephew. “OMG you aren’t coming to my birthday? I’m not your friend anymore” … Really? We’re adults here (at least I thought we were).
The people who live in the past: You have that friend who always brings up the past. “You always used to go out, & now you never see me, you’re such a bad friend”. No, I’m not, I just grew up & realized I have more important things to do than go out 24/7 & waste all my hard earned cash.
The people who don’t respect you or others: You have that friend that no matter where you are, they don’t respect anyone, not even you. They pretty much do whatever they want, wherever they are. “Oh, I’ll just leave my garbage in your backyard, that’s where it belongs right?” or “Oh shit, we were supposed to meet up at 6, I forgot”. It’s embarrassing to bring someone around who doesn’t respect others. There comes a point in time in your life where respect is actually important, & being disrespectful isn’t cool.
The people who are all about “me me me”: You have that friend who literally only ever thinks about themselves, & not only do they only think about themselves, they only ever talk about themselves as well. A person can only listen to someone talk about themselves for so long before they want to shoot themselves in the ear.
The people who waste their weekend (or life) getting wasted: You have that friend who gets absolutely blackout drunk at the least appropriate times. I get it, you like to drink, but why don’t you go get drunk at the bar with your friends who also like to get drunk at that bar, rather than at someones house with people who aren’t even drinking? Plus, I also don’t have time to be your babysitter, hold your hair while you throw up, and make sure you make it home safe.
The people who use social media as social validation: You have that friend who constantly checks social media to see how many likes their photo they just posted got. Seriously? Does it really matter? “O.M.G you got 100 likes, but she only got 60? You’re so much cooler than her!!!” No, you’re wrong. Just because someone likes your photo does not mean you’re cool.
The people who’s parents still do everything for them: You have that friend who’s parents still pay for, well everything. I get it, it’s difficult to have enough money to move out, but to have your parents literally pay for everything? If you expect your parents to pay for everything, but you constantly complain about how they rule your life, you’re better off getting a sugar daddy who will pay for all your crap. Another thing, if you’re 20 something and your parents still make your appointments for you, I think it’s time to pick up your cellphone and make your own appointment. You’re an adult.
The people who live in a fairy tale and only think about materialistic things: You have that friend who doesn’t realize what life is all about. They don’t have a clue. They just focus on material things. Most people on the planet work everyday just to pay their bills. Once in a while they will splurge on something, but they don’t constantly focus on materialistic things. It’s not all about who has the nicest purse, or what kind of car one drives. I can admit when I was younger, I was just like that, but as I grew up I started to realize I don’t need the big house, or the fancy sports car, or a rich husband who buys me a $60,000 Tiffamy and Co. engagement ring. I would be perfectly fine being proposed to with a Ring Pop, living in a box, driving a wagon.
The people who have no self respect: You have that friend who everyone looks at & goes “what are they doing”. At first it might be a tad entertaining, but after a while no one wants to hang out with you when they are around, and that just sucks because you’re now stuck with them ALONE.
The users: You have that friend who only calls you when they need something, or when their plans flopped that night and they need someone to hang out with. Umm, no thanks? I’m not going to be your second option.
Yes of course, ending a friendship can be tough, don’t get me wrong but at the end of the day, the only person you’re forced to live with is yourself and if you’re not happy, then what’s the point? Do what you have to do to stay happy. Don’t let anyone’s bullshit opinion stop you from doing something you want to do.
“You become like the 5 people you spend the most time with. Pick wisely”
– Joanna xo